Twin Flame Soul Meaning, Mission and Union

Brianna D. Mann, Ph.D

If you’ve always felt that you were phenomenologically different from other humans, an outsider, that you see the world completely differently, that you can see, sense, know and feel things others cannot…if you’ve spent your life feeling like a part of you was missing, like you were meant for a great, fairy tale love yet it seems to have evaded you until…a strange set of circumstances led you to meet someone amazing, the person you dreamed of, your best friend…but the relationship fell apart before it really started, and yet, neither of you can move on, and signs, synchronicities, dreams and connections keep pointing you back to that person…if you’ve felt that you were here for a reason, that you had a mission, to help and heal the planet and its people, then you might be a Twin Flame.

Twin Flame Soul Meaning

So, what is a Twin Flame? Think of the concept of Twin Flames this way: Identical twins are genetically identical humans split into two separate bodies with separate egos and separate souls. Twin Flames are energetically identical souls split into two separate bodies with separate egos and separate genetic material.

Twin Flames are advanced souls, incarnated at this time on Earth to help raise the consciousness level of the collective. Because, as it turns out, the collective’s consciousness level is very low and ultimately, is pushing humanity to the brink of extinction, through hatred, fear, power, greed, war, abuse, oppression, environmental destruction, and the list goes on. Twin flames are revolutionaries, here to bring a new way of doing, thinking, seeing, and being in the world. That new way of doing, thinking, seeing and being is with love, light, peace, compassion and understanding. In this way, Twin Flames are similar to other highly evolved humans, like Mahatma Gandhi, Mother Theresa, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., in their mission and message. The biggest difference is perhaps the sheer number of Twin Flames incarnated at this time on Earth, working towards the mission of bringing love, light, peace, compassion and understanding to the people of Earth.

The other large difference is the way in which Twin Flames bring love, light, peace, compassion and understanding to the world. Other highly evolved people usually bring these elements to the world through advocacy and service work. Twin Flames can absolutely bring love, light, peace, compassion and understanding through advocacy and service work. In fact, many Twin Flames are in helping professions, in roles as spiritual teachers and are involved in advocacy work. But, the primary way in which Twin Flames bring these elements into the world is through their own personal growth work, called the ascension process, which culminates in Twin Flame Union. Twin Flame Union is the stage of the Twin Flame journey where the Twin Flame counterparts finally come together in physical reality to have a romantic relationship. So, how do the Twin Flame ascension process and Twin Flame Union ultimately play a role in helping humanity?

Twin Flame Mission

The Twin Flame Mission, the reason why so many Twins are on Earth at this time, is to dismantle old narratives about love and relationships, which have historically been oppressive, utilitarian, abusive, codependent, unsatisfying power struggles, and introduce new narratives of liberating, utopian, delightful, empowering, egalitarian true love, the kind of love depicted in fairy tales and feminist movements.

Twin Flames achieve this mission by growing these types of relationships in their own lives for the purpose of anchoring the new love narratives there (being the change they want to see in the world), by inspiring others to do the same (role modeling), and through their advocacy and service work in the world, designed to help and heal others (dissemination of the new narrative). Twin Flames are pathfinders, paving a new way so that others can follow.

What many people don’t realize is that finding and experiencing fairy tale true love isn’t a simply some unnecessary and idealistic desire of inane women. It’s actually an incredibly important feminist issue. The lack of this type of love is a remnant of female servitude. How so? True love is a right that has historically been robbed from women, because women have been forced to marry for financial dependency, personal safety, cultural duty and basic survival. Today, the divorce rate and the levels of relationship dissatisfaction are high enough to tell us that true love is still a right many forgo in the service of these powerful, lingering narratives about financial dependency, personal safety, cultural duty and basic survival. The suffragettes fought for women’s basic right to vote, the feminists sought equality in the workplace and in society, and Twin Flames are fighting for the right to experience lasting true love.

Twin Flame Ascension

So far, we’ve discussed why Twin Flame Union matters so much, what the Twin Flame mission is. But, why is Twin Flame Union itself so important for this mission? Why don’t Twin Flames just fight for love the way suffragettes fought for the right for vote or the way feminists have fought for equality? Wouldn’t that achieve the same goal? Possibly. But, let’s explore how the Twin Flame relationship progression works and in so doing, it should become clear why the ascension process and ultimately, union, are so important.

Twin Flame Ascension: Healing Wounds

During the ascension stage, Twin Flames undergo intense personal growth work, designed to heal old wounds, rewrite personal and collective narratives (e.g., love is a luxury that women can’t afford) and raise consciousness/energy levels. Our wounds impact our ability to connect with others and interact with the world from a place of love. From our wounds arise a great deal of fear, grief, shame, hatred and anger, as well as defense mechanisms designed to protect these wounds and ensure that we are never wounded again. We connect and interact with others and the world from the place of these negative emotions and defense mechanisms, and we do so in ways that do not create harmony, love, compassion and understanding. Instead, we interact in ways that are controlling, abusive, oppressive, overpowering, destructive and otherwise harmful. To create more loving connections with others and ultimately, a better world, it is essential that we heal our wounds. Therapy is a great place to start. Inner child and teen healing work is another method to try, with a trained therapist or on your own, using a digital inner child healing meditation product. Here is an excellent digital inner child healing product you can use to heal old wounds and raise consciousness levels.

Twin Flame Ascension: Rewriting Narratives

Twin Flames also must rewrite the personal and collective narratives that interfere with the ability to see a new way of being and loving. Narratives such as, “True love doesn’t exist or last; you can’t have both love and money; women just want men for money; men just want women for sex; women can’t survive without men; take what you can get, you are lucky to have found someone who wants you,” are just a few examples of narratives that block egalitarian, empowering, delightful, utopian, lasting true love. There are many methods available to rewrite these narratives. Journaling is a great place to start examining the origins and veracity of these narratives. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is another approach, based heavily in methodology that examines old, unhelpful narratives and rewrites them into new, helpful narratives; this process is called, cognitive restructuring. Dream interpretation is also an excellent method for seeing the world differently, for finding and restructuring old narratives about love and life. Further, dreams are commonly a place where Twins experience Twin Flame telepathy, where the counterparts speak to one another across space and time without the use of known sensory organs. Understanding what these dream messages mean can be an essential part of the ascension process because dreams provide an excellent source of Twin Flame guidance. Here is a fantastic digital dream interpretation course to get you started. I also offer a brief, free e-course about Twin Flame dreams.

Twin Flame Ascension: Raising Twin Flame Energy Levels

Consciousness or energy levels refer to the dominant emotional state a person experiences. This dominant emotional state ranges from the so-called “negative” emotions at the lower levels (e.g., shame, fear, grief, anger, etc.) to the so-called “positive” emotions at the upper levels (e.g., acceptance, unconditional love, joy, enlightenment, etc.). The purpose of Twin Flame Ascension is to raise these consciousness levels to level 500 and above. Healing old wounds, rewriting unhealthy narratives and energy work are some of the primary ways in which Twin Flames can raise their consciousness or energy levels.

After enough healing and personal growth has occurred to raise Twin Flame energy levels to the level of unconditional love (i.e., level 500), the Twin Flames’ souls are drawn back together, and the Twin Flames come back together in their physical forms to have a relationship on Earth in this lifetime and beyond: Twin Flame Union. The consciousness levels they reach individually are consciousness levels rarely achieved by anyone on Earth; only 4% of the world’s population is thought to have achieved the level of unconditional love, level 500 (Hawkins, 2002). Achieving this level of consciousness alone is enough to raise the consciousness of the entire collective; that is, one person at this consciousness level is strong enough to offset 750,000 people at the lower consciousness levels (Hawkins). Pretty amazing, huh? Wait until we discuss what happens when Twin Flames combine their consciousness levels (below). To learn more about the evolution of consciousness, check out the free audiobook link here.

What is so important about a Twin Flame in Union?

As discussed, a Twin Flame’s individual growth work brings more love, light, compassion and understanding to the planet as a whole by raising the consciousness level of the collective. But, more importantly, Twin Flame consciousness combined, when reunited as souls and reunited as human beings in an Earthly relationship (i.e., Twin Flame Union), creates a synergistic effect, meaning that their combined consciousness levels are amplified exponentially, thus raising the collective consciousness level on Earth exponentially and also, unlocking fairy tale love narratives and new ways of being in the world for the entire collective to enjoy. Healing wounds and rewriting old narratives through therapy, inner child healing, cognitive restructuring and dream interpretation are all ways to raise consciousness levels. Meditation and energy work are two additional methods focusing specifically on energy, that can help raise Twin Flame consciousness levels. Here is a great, free energy clearing meditation that can be used to clear outside energy and help raise consciousness levels.

Why can’t Twin Flames do this growth and healing work together? Why must they separate and then come back together after they’ve done their ascension work and reached certain consciousness levels individually?

Good questions. In traditional relationships and for many soulmates, the partners meet, fall in love (or not, depending on the circumstances and their dominant narratives about relationships), and then work through their individual growth and healing work together, which is an iteration of the Twin Flame ascension process. Or, in some cases, the individuals do little to no individual growth or healing work at all and simply stay disconnected and/or in conflict. There is often a great deal of conflict and pain caused during the growth process, regardless of how willing both parties are to grow and heal. Some relationships do not survive this and some may not have been meant to survive. Many relationships do not have true love at their core, which is often necessary for a relationship to sustain such a tumultuous growth process, and sometimes the healing and growth process causes so much damage to the relationship that not even true love can keep it alive. If the relationship survives this growth process, the relationship and the love the partners share is usually stronger as a result.

In Twin Flame relationships, the partners meet, fall intensely in love, and then something usually happens that drives them apart to do their individual growth and healing work separately. This is called the Twin Flame separation stage. Try as they might, during the separation stage, there is little they can do, other than individual healing and personal growth work, that will ultimately bring them back together. They may attempt strategies that are effective in bringing traditional couples back together, such as planning dates or attempting to induce jealousy in the other partner, but these strategies are often thwarted by circumstances or are simply ineffective. For example, the Twin Flames might decide to plan a dinner date but the morning of the date, both partners wake up sick and can’t attend the date. Or, an attempt to make the other Twin jealous of a potential romantic interest may only serve to upset or drive the other Twin further away, rather than get them to see what they are missing. At the end of the day, any attempts to circumvent personal growth and healing in order to hurry up and make the relationship manifest in the physical reality are ultimately thwarted. The Twin Flame relationship defies conventional wisdom, advice and strategies.

The Twin Flame, fairy tale, true love relationship is the prize at level 500 of the personal growth journey and the only way to get there is by doing the damn work, like it or not. If there were a shortcut, I’d tell you about it. Why is it set up like this?

Well, anyone who has gone to therapy or attempted to better themselves through other types of personal growth work knows that looking at your issues, your wounds, your fears, the irritating things you do, the regrettable things you’ve done to yourself and others, your harmful patterns, etc., is pretty much the worst. No one does this work unless they absolutely have to. So, I suspect that whomever is in charge, whether it’s god, the universe or Twin Flames prior to their incarnation on Earth, realized that if they were going to get Twin Flames to do their painful personal growth work, to raise their energy vibrations to levels rarely seen in the human population at large, there was going to need to be a very large incentive to do so, and that incentive is Twin Flame Union, the official Twin Flame relationship. Otherwise, the Twins would likely quit their personal growth work after they experienced some relief from their pain and/or met their true love.

Further, consciousness theory suggests that when we function at lower consciousness levels, we actually drain energy from others, from individual people and the collective. This includes draining energy from our romantic partners, and may account for why many relationships fail: People expect their partners to meet their emotional and energetic needs by feeding them with their own energy, much like a parent would have done (Hawkins, 2002; Redfield, 1993). This method is not sustainable and creates an imbalance of power, where one partner holds another’s emotional and energetic needs in their hands. This creates fear of loss and the need to control the other partner in order to receive the needed supply of energy and emotional support. Both partners are trapped by dependency, control and obligation. This dynamic is exactly what has created so many problems on Earth; it is the abuse and dependency dynamic, and is the antithesis of what Twin Flames are trying to create.

By healing wounds, engaging in personal growth work, doing energetic work, and ultimately raising consciousness levels to the vibration of unconditional love, Twin Flames also gain the ability to reliably tap into source consciousness. Source consciousness provides an omnipresent and unlimited supply of unconditional love, energy and emotional support, so those tapping into it no longer need to take energy and emotional support from others. If Twin Flames came together prior to unlocking the ability to tap into source consciousness, they would run the risk of not only draining energy and emotional resources from their partners, they could potentially drain these resources from the collective as well. So, rather than raising the consciousness/energy levels on Earth, they could actually drain the energy levels and thwart their entire mission. Further, Twin Flame consciousness combined would not be able to rise to the level needed to create the synergistic effect that allows for exponential consciousness amplification and the unlocking of narratives for fairy tale true love and new ways of being in the world. In other words, if they did not complete their individual growth work prior to coming together in romantic union, Twin Flames would probably not be able to complete their full mission to raise the consciousness level of the collective and bring a new way of being and loving to Earth.

Twin Flame Harmony and Disharmony

There is an innate harmony in the Twin Flame connection. This comes from sharing the same underlying soul. But, the Twin Flame partners themselves can be conceptualized as yin and yang forces: seemingly opposite, yet complimentary, interrelated and connected forces (Wikipedia-Yin-Yang). In Twin Flames, these forces are so strong that they have the power to both attract and repel the partners.

The Twin Flame relationship sequence highlights the power of these forces: There are intense, cosmic, energetic attraction forces that serve to pull Twins together initially. Then, these same forces push them apart during the Twin Flame separation stage so they can work through individual issues as part of the ascension process. When ascension is complete, these forces ultimately pull Twin Flames back together again into full physical union.

In other words, the Twin Flame connection is both harmonious and disharmonious at the same time but at a soul level, the partners fit together perfectly, creating an ultimate harmony. The disharmony comes in at the egoic, human, third dimensional, Earthly level. Societal constructs, including narratives about how relationships and humans should be, create disharmony in Twin Flame relationships and in all relationships on Earth. The ultimate truth is love, which is inherently harmonious, but human constructs interfere with this harmony. One of the tasks of the Twin Flame mission is to overcome these arbitrary societal constructs to reveal the love at the heart of all human beings, and bring a new, harmonious way of being into the world, based on love, peace, compassion and understanding.

First, we’ll discuss the ways in which the Twin Flame connection is harmonious and why this is so important, especially initially. Then, we’ll talk about the societal constructs that can create disharmony in the Twin Flame connection and serve as obstacles for Twin Flames to overcome.

Twin Flame Harmony: Twin Flame Signs

The Twin Flame connection is harmonious at the soul level. This harmony is important because it’s how Twin Flames are drawn together and recognize one another initially. This harmony also serves to keep Twin Flames connected during the difficult separation phase.

We’ve all heard of soulmate love, and how amazingly fated these connections are, but the Twin Flame connection takes this kind of love to a different level. The Twin Flames’ love connection is, literally, out of this world—one energetically identical soul, split into two human bodies. Nothing compares. Even if Twin Flames feel hopeless and try to move on during the separation stage, they will feel completelyunderwhelmed by anyone else they meet, no matter how great these people seem to outside observers. Further, they’ll feel like they are cheating on their Twin Flame, even if the Twin Flame relationship is currently broken up or was never official to begin with. Twin Flame relationships defy conventional wisdom, advice and strategies. Try applying any of these conventions to the Twin Flame connection and you’ll soon find out that they don’t work.

Here’s how Twin Flames typically describe the harmonious part of the connection (Henderson):

1) There was a predestined chance meeting. They weren’t looking for love when they met. There were weird synchronicities, signs, connections and commonalities they shared and these served to bring them closer together initially; and in Twin Flame separation, these helped to keep them from giving up on the relationship. It just seemed like a greater power was speaking with these synchronicities, signs, connections and commonalities, which was hard to argue with.

2) They’d been orbiting one another for quite some time. They’d lived in many of same places but at different times or at the same times but never ran into one another, until the chance meeting. They had overlapping social circles.

3) They felt an intense cosmic love: Twin Flame love. There was a strong attraction to their counterpart; they just felt drawn to them. The chemistry was electric.

4) Their Twin Flame counterpart feels like one of their best, soul friends. There’s just a deep resonant connection. Their Twin feels like home.

5) The connection feels carefree, delightful and totally safe. They can fully be themselves in ways they never dared before. Conversation is easy, deep, meaningful and fun.

6) The partners have similar mannerisms, language patterns, expressions, humor, maturity levels, attitudes. They share the same core values. Their Twin feels just like them, except in another body.

7) Both are hopeless romantics.

8) They have the same favorite music, movies and books.

9) Both are committed to personal and spiritual growth. The chance meeting with their counterpart sparked the Twin Flame spiritual awakening process. The work they do during the Twin Flame ascension stage expands them and heals them in ways they never thought possible. They are different, better, healthier people because of meeting their Twin.

10) They can basically read one another’s minds, also known as Twin Flame telepathy. And, along these lines, many Twins will report that other, latent psychic gifts are unlocked upon meeting their Twin.

11) Twin Flame dream communication: They dream about one another frequently and often these dreams are vivid, precognitive (i.e., they predict the future) and/or telepathic (i.e., they tell them what their Twin is thinking, feeling or experiencing).

Twin Flame Disharmony: Twin Flame Obstacles

The Twin Flame connection can be disharmonious at the human level. The world we live in is filled with fallacious constructs, including arbitrary rules, harmful narratives (like those discussed earlier), and oppressive and abusive institutions, power structures and leadership. These all lead humanity away from truth at a soul level (i.e., love) and into the destructive, abusive interactions we see at the human level. Twin Flames are just as likely to align with these fallacious constructs as any other human. The difference is that the Twin Flame mission requires them to wake up to these fallacious constructs and choose differently in order to help the rest of humanity do the same. One of the places Twin Flames challenge these fallacious constructs is in the Twin Flame relationship. Often, Twins are paired together in ways that society would not necessarily approve of; they must overcome these Twin Flame obstacles in order to create a harmonious connection and reach Twin Flame Union (Henderson).

1) Socioeconomic differences: A wealthy Twin falls in love with someone from “the wrong side of the tracks.”

2) Age differences ranging from 5-40 years: An older man falls in love with a much younger woman.

3) Married or committed partnership: One or both Twins are married or in a committed relationship when they meet and they must decide between obligation and true love.

4) Ethnic and cultural differences: A black man and white woman fall in love despite racial tensions in their social circles or families.

5) LGBTQQIP2SAA: A woman who previously identified as straight falls in love with another woman.

6) Professional relationship: An attorney falls in love with his client.

7) Religious and political differences: A Muslim woman falls in love with a Fundamentalist Christian Republican.

8) Geographical distance: Two people, living on different continents, who speak different languages, fall in love.

9) Worldview differences. This is a tricky one because Twins tend to have the same core values, but some difference may still occur that cause friction in the relationship. For example, one Twin may have a logical, Western mindset and the other may have a mystical, intuitive mindset.

These examples all illustrate that there is something somewhat socially forbidden about the Twin Flame relationship. The Twin Flames are meant to overcome these obstacles in order to build new relationship paradigms for the entire collective based upon love, compassion and understanding rather than fallacious societal constructs. Twin Flames can overcome these using many of the methods discussed above (e.g., journaling, therapy, cognitive restructuring, dream work, inner child healing, energy clearing, etc.).

Final Thoughts and Words of Caution

One thing that is important to note is that sometimes abusive relationships can look like Twin Flame relationships. I’m not going to go into all of the signs of abusive relationships here but I will say a couple of things. A general rule of thumb is that abusive relationships are constricting, nonreciprocal and feel bad; healthy relationships are expansive, growth oriented for both partners, reciprocal and feel good. Another general rule is that healthy relationships involve accepting responsibility and taking action to change behaviors. In unhealthy or abusive relationships, one or both partners might refuse to take responsibility for their actions and place blame on the other partner, or they might say they are sorry and willing to change, but change never occurs or is short lived. So, are both parties going to therapy or doing other types of personal growth work, and owning their role in the conflicts? Is the relationship improving, or does it improve and then devolve again? If there aren’t steady and lasting improvements, this can be a sign of an abusive or unhealthy relationship, of someone who says the right things but isn’t willing to do the actual work.

There are some Twin Flame experts out there who discourage therapeutic healing work and insist upon complete adherence to their protocols. When it comes to Twin Flame experts, I would caution you to listen to your truth and not take advice from anyone who claims to possess the ultimate truth or the right way of doing things. Does their message resonate with you? If so, listen, but only to the parts that feel good. You can discard the rest. Further, if the expert openly discourages other types of healing work that differ from what they offer, or discourages dissent or curiosity, that is a problem. These are generally signs of a cult leader. You should be permitted to try different healing options, ask questions, disagree and not feel like you are committing a sin or betraying the so-called expert. Different healing methods work for different people and messages resonate differently with different people, depending on personality type and style, so beware of anyone who doesn’t appreciate individual differences.

Twin Flames have a special, fated connection; they are true soul counterparts. They have incarnated on Earth, during this time, to bring true love, light, peace, compassion and understanding to the people of Earth. They do this by falling in love, separating from one another, then healing their own wounds and raising their consciousness levels, so they can ultimately come back together to create a synergy that unlocks even higher consciousness levels and rewrites societal and personal narratives about love, connection, relationships and being in the world. There are many resources available to help Twins during their Twin Flame ascension journey; several of these options for Twin Flame help are discussed in this article. Lasting, true love shouldn’t be a luxury, it should be a right, and Twin Flames are here to ensure that all humans can experience their birthright: the magic of lasting, true, fairy tale love.

For additional guidance on your Twin Flame journey, check out the resources below:

*Free Guide: Are You Sabotaging Your Dream Life? How to Manifest Your Dream Life Through Consciousness Evolution.

*Free Guide: Gaslighting: What It Is, How to Respond, How It Damages Intuition & Methods for Intuition Repair

*Free E-course: An Introduction To Twin Flame Dream Interpretation

*Course: Dream Interpretation: The Basics & Beyond-A Next-Level Course For Twin Flames

*Free Energy Clearing & Protection Tool

*Inner Child Healing Tool